Finding Love

“How can I get a good loving man?”

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If you’re lucky, he’ll find you.

Otherwise, you can settle for second best. I know what you’re going to say. You’ll say, “Why would I settle for less?”

The answer is simple. Any man can be a good loving man. Some just need a little more work than others. The beauty of relationships is that you get to grow alongside each other. Of course, you also need time to grow on your own to maintain your individuality.

But while you’re spending time with that one man, you have every opportunity to mold him into someone good and loving. How, you might ask? One way is through the power of reciprocity.

According to social psychology, reciprocity is the act of responding to a positive action with another positive action. In other words, treat him right, and you’ll get the same treatment in return.

If your man doesn’t reciprocate your positive actions, then he’s probably not meant to be your good loving man.

So to answer your question, don’t find a good loving man because you might just waste an eternity searching. Instead, build one.

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