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Prime your listener

You walk into the meeting with a suggestion. You open with “this is probably a dumb idea, but…” and watch the room half-listen. The…

José Fernando Costa · 2026-05-21 09:01 · 0 claps · 0.9 min read paywalled
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Prime your listener

You walk into the meeting with a suggestion. You open with “this is probably a dumb idea, but…” and watch the room half-listen. The suggestion gets brushed aside before the actual content arrives.

The adjective you place in front of an idea pre-loads how the listener evaluates everything that comes next.

Positive adjectives prime people to like the idea. Negative adjectives prime them to dislike it. The idea has not changed. The frame around it did the work.

“I have a quick suggestion” lands differently from “I have a complicated suggestion”. The listener starts judging through the lens you handed them, before a single detail of the idea arrives.

The move is to pick that adjective on purpose.

Swap “this is probably wrong, but…” for “here is something worth testing”.

Swap “crazy idea…” for “simple idea”.

Swap “I’m not sure this works…” for “here is a clean approach”. Same idea. Different reception.

The same rule runs in reverse. When someone else opens with negative adjectives about their own suggestion, they are setting you up to dislike what comes next.

Language shapes how the next thing gets perceived. Choose what goes in front.


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