She’s a Gynarchist and Wants a “Good Boy”

She’s a dominant woman, a female supremacist and a gynarchist — the so-called femdom triple crown. In other words, my dream woman! She enjoys men and masculinity but strictly on her terms. Muscles yes; but obedience more so. She is one of many young women who are forging a new socio-sexual dynamism where women rule without excuse or compromise. It is nothing short of a privilege for a man to be in her company — and that’s the view of an increasing number of dominant women assertively resetting the terms of their relationships with (submissive) men. Sex is (almost) always on their terms; their pleasure prioritized by selfless, well-trained, ego-reduced male sex servants and lick toys privileged to serve and submit as directed. She’s all about agency for women; reduced rights for men. And while that may come across as radical, it speaks to the divergent views on hierarchial relationship models by an emerging tribe of dominant young women who demand to be in charge. The following is a female-centric treatise of sorts written for submissive men on what this dominant dynamo expects from a “good boy” in under her control and leadership. (bold highlights, mine.)

“What is a good boy? I am attracted to men. I like muscles. I like strength. I really love when men get all sweaty. That makes me wild! I want him obedient but assertive. I want him proactive. He obeys all my commands but he can respond assertively. He can make decisions about how to decorate the house, what he will make for dinner, what I would like him to say or not say when I get home in the evening. I still want him to be a man.

A good boy treats women like we are his superiors. He is like a private in the army who sees all women as commissioned officers. He is aware that we make mistakes. He is aware that we aren’t perfect. He is aware that sometimes he may even know more about something than we do. But he is still subordinate to us. He is still going to salute, and stand at attention, and follow commands (figuratively, not literally). A good boy is never jealous. A good boy plays nice with other men. If I come home with another boyfriend he is happy to have him as a brother. A good boy picks up after me. A good boy is paying careful attention to my calendar and giving me lots of reminders. A good boy is checking the mail and my inbox to filter through all the junk so I don’t have to waste my time doing it. A good boy is making those phone calls for me during the day that are difficult for me because they are only open during hours that are engulfed by my workday.

A good boy is a man I can trust. I know he loves me and he feels fortunate to belong to a woman like me. He initiates sex and romance but if I say “no” it stops instantly. If I give a specific command he follows. But I still want him to be the man and initiate sex and romance. I understand that the gynarchist fantasy probably has a “sex on her terms” kind of element that you are all going to tell me fits better. I suppose it would. But to be honest, thinking about my best relationships with men, the sexiest guys are the ones who will just push me on a bed and go for it. (Disclaimer: Don’t go shove some random woman on a bed and do sexual or romantic stuff. I am referring to the behavior of men I had dated and/or been in a relationship for awhile before they ever did that which made it appropriate.) But the point is, I am attracted to men, masculinity, and male behavior.

Most women are attracted to men, masculinity and male behavior. So a functional gynarchy must be one that doesn’t just meet your needs (as submissive men). Women need to be able to use you both for your utility (i.e. cleaning the house and making dinner) but women need to be attracted to this new male we are envisioning for a gynarchy. There is a lot of pushback against role reversal. I concur in the sense that I still want a man; not a woman. So I think role reversal is Step 1 and then amending the simple role reversal to meet the needs of women is Step 2. So yeah, since I realize I am speaking to a predominantly male audience here, I thought I would elaborate about the kind of man I would enjoy in a gynarchic relationship or society.”

Well said! Men can be masculine — as I am — yet fully and unapologetically submissive to women. Feminine leadership is remaking relationships; focusing men more on domestic and sexual subservience to women they enthusiastically acknowledge to be their superiors. It beyond acceptable for a woman declare her desire to dominate — and even degrade — a man for her amusement, pleasure and utility. This is the new order: women on top; men down below.