My Mom wants me to marry

…I’m afraid of talking about this…

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I’m afraid.

Very much afraid.

No, I can’t offend her.

She has done so much for me and deserves every good thing that I can offer.

But this is way too much and out of place.

This is the dilemma that many Africans especially we in Nigeria face.

Duty to the self, to the family and friends.

If you read the work of Ral Joseph, you will notice how she talked about being coerced by her mum to bring in suitors.

Well, this is exactly that time of the year where ceremonies abound.

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Many “eatings” and “drinkings” are going on.

There will be naming ceremonies, weddings, traditional marriages, masquerade festivals, family meetings, village meetings, class reunion and so on.

In all these events, there must be food and drinks in abundance.

But, I am going to be careful of what to eat.

I had already written on this before.

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Amidst all these enjoyments, my mum brought up an issue that I am afraid to talk about.

Marriage!!!

She has heard me talking with many girls on phone; she had even spoken with some of them; others have visited her even in my absence.

Then, yesterday she asked me the most terrifying question of my life.

When am I going to carry my grandchildren?

It was a question though long over due but still not right.

I do not want to offend her.

And sarcasm wouldn’t save the day either.

I became emotional and humble; she is my mother after all.

There are people that you wouldn’t want to offend in this life and my mum is the 001 in the list.

Now, my Christmas rice is tasteless.

My mind is restless.

I cannot think straight again at the moment.

There must be a way out and that way is definitely not marriage.

What should I do in this situation friends?

Please help me out.

I am planning to go back to school and spend my Xmas there.

That will save me from the physical attachment but I know that I will still address the issue later on.

Stanley Chibuike.

Merry Christmas to you all…