The Cracked Cup Syndrome
Why do we save our best blessings for guests while we suffocate in the survival habits of our ancestors?
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The Cracked Cup Syndrome
Why do we save our best blessings for guests while we suffocate in the survival habits of our ancestors?
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Choosing a beautiful new cup as a reminder that being alive today is the special occasion. Photo by Cyn T on Unsplash
We trap ourselves in a waiting room, eating from cracked plates while our new blessings gather dust. By saving the best for later, we subconsciously tell ourselves that we are not worthy of living beautifully today.
After I moved to Germany, I didn’t have any new items in the kitchen; every single dish, cup and pan was moved from our old home into our tiny kitchen. And sometimes when I go to the store to buy something new, I suddenly stop. I realise there’s no place. There’s nowhere to put it. And every time, I give up.
Some of the cups and plates were already cracked, and I was still keeping them. I kept telling myself, “I’ll change them tomorrow, I will throw them away.” But everything remained like that… buried under daily chores and obligations.
Until one day it dawned on me, I freed myself up a little from other obligations and deep-cleaned the kitchen. I threw out everything that was collecting negative energy. According to Feng Shui, everything that is cracked or broken collects negative energy, right?
I bought myself a new, beautiful service. You know that moment when you can’t look at your old things in your closet anymore? It’s the same with clothes. Even the ones I don’t wear much, but that are sitting in my closet, when I look at them, I want to get rid of them. Why am I fed up with looking at them? It was the same with the dinner service.
Well, maybe I got off topic a little. The main thing I wanted to say is, I bought a new service and I said to myself, “Now, I’m going to use this service for guests.” And suddenly a thought came to my head: Okay, girl, why only for guests? Why shouldn’t it be nice for you, too?
Why is it that everything that is the newest, most beautiful, and cleanest is kept for someone else? Why don’t we make it nice for ourselves, too? Let’s enjoy things while we have them. Let’s use them; they will break, they will be destroyed, and we will buy new ones.
This is a deep psychology that we have inherited from our ancestors. They lived in times of scarcity, war, and poverty, where saving the “best” for survival or for show was the rule of life. But without realising it, we carry their trauma of survival into our modern lives.
We trap ourselves in a waiting room, eating from cracked plates while our blessings gather dust. By saving the best for later, we subconsciously tell ourselves that we are not worthy of beauty today.
True abundance is not about accumulating things, but about having the courage to live in the moment and savor the richness of today. When we stop saving our joy for tomorrow, we break the cycle of scarcity. We tell the Universe that we are ready for the abundance that already exists within us.
Moving to Germany taught me that physical space is limited, and so is our emotional capacity for keeping the past. Cracked cups have to go, because they held the energy of old, exhausting habits, difficult moves, and nostalgia.
Now every morning when I pour coffee into my new cup, I choose myself. It is a reminder that I am here, present, alive. That is the special occasion.
Cheers!
Thank you for reading!
Today, I invite you to open that cupboard, take out your finest cups and plates, and celebrate the beautiful occasion of being alive. Tell me, what joy are you no longer saving for tomorrow?
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