Controling is not LOVE

I see people around me, mostly the teenagers and even people in their early 20s, and i feel like, why they control so much. If a man or a women don’t want to do the thing you are asking them, then don’t force it. Mostly in case of other party around them.

I was not like this, but inmy previous relationship, things went south. He was really controlling , manipulative and had double standards. I don’t hate him, i just hate that i choosed myself to stick to that drama. He used to be super controling. Always going through my phone. Asking for passwords. And now that i finally out of it, I have one thing clear in my mind that, I want to be nothing like him. I accepts people past without making them feeling guilty about it. I don’t control, don’t ask them to do something that they must know is not worth doing.

And honestly speaking, it works really well, It’s been 9 months in this relationship and we never fought. (Touch wood) Ya we had disagreement about stuff sometimes, but we both never downplay the other person, we understand from where they are coming from. It’s really peace having someone with same level of maturity.

One golden rule to have a peacefull relationship is that, don’t do anything you don’t want your partner to be doing.

Sure he can go out with his friends, go for lunch with his friend who can be a girl. I know , i can trust him around pepole, because I myself go for lunch with my friend, and there is nothing romantic, its just they are the good person, who don’t gossip and badmouth other, and fit in my vibe. When i feel off about any person, i cut them off. I don’t want to give any false hope to anyone.

Ya, this is all i wanted to share, if you liked it, I can share my lessons in detail , if this can help even one or two person, that would be a lot.

DON’T EVER LOOSE YOURSELF WHILE LOVING OTHERS