7 Brutal Habits of People Who Genuinely Love Themselves

(Most people will never do number #3)

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Loving others is the fastest way to learn how to love yourself.

Because the love you give is the love you receive in return — except life multiplies it.

An apple seed becomes a tree that produces hundreds of apples. Or, as Ralph Waldo Emerson put it, “From a single acorn, a thousand forests can grow.”

In the same way, one single act of genuine kindness creates ripples that come back to you in ways you could never imagine.

People who truly appreciate and respect themselves have learned this truth. And as Anne Frank taught us, “No one has ever become poor by giving.”

Quite the opposite.

Every time you give love, kindness, or generosity, you don’t become poorer — you become richer in every sense.

That’s why today I want to give you these 7 habits that people who genuinely love themselves use every day.

They’ll improve your life and boost your self-esteem.

1. When it’s not one thing, it’s another. Winston Churchill once said, “Success is going from failure to failure without losing enthusiasm.” He knew what he was talking about. People with high self-esteem don’t torture themselves, beat themselves up, or curse their luck when problems arise. They know that “when it’s not one thing, it’s another,” and that the only people without problems are the dead. For that very reason, they see problems as a blessing — because it means they’re still alive. Boom!
2. The body keeps the score, but it also forgives. They say that as we get older, we pay for the excesses of our youth — and that’s true. But it’s also true that if you love yourself and start taking dedicated care of your body, it will thank you and get better. People who truly love themselves (something they often didn’t do in the past) don’t want to go back to their old chaotic lives full of unhealthy habits once they break free. That’s why they stick to strict schedules, follow healthy diets, make time to relax, and even treat themselves to a good massage every now and then.
3. To win, you first have to convince. Maya Angelou said it beautifully: “We delight in the beauty of the butterfly, but rarely admit the changes it has gone through to achieve that beauty.” That’s exactly it. People who truly love themselves understand that others don’t see the inner process you’ve been through — they only see the result. That’s why those with healthy self-esteem know how to present themselves well. They’ve learned to highlight who they are now, instead of hiding it or downplaying it like they did when their self-esteem was low. By proudly showing their transformation, they inspire others. People see them as an example worth following. And that’s exactly why they attract help, support, and closeness — others become convinced that they deserve their time and attention.
4. They don’t waste their vital assets. Stephen R. Covey said, “Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply.” And it’s exactly those kinds of people that self-loving individuals have learned to avoid. They know their time and energy are valuable, so they reserve them for those who truly value them, instead of wasting them on self-centered people who only want to hog the spotlight.
5. They don’t use hurry against themselves. When you’re in a rush, you get in a bad mood and take it out on others. Doing that is like shooting yourself in the foot. As Mother Teresa of Calcutta wisely said, “Yesterday is gone. Tomorrow has not yet come. We have only today.” That’s why people who truly love themselves have learned to treat both themselves and others gently. They give themselves space, avoid overloading their schedules, and don’t stress over deadlines that often only exist in their heads. They know that kind of anxiety just floods their body with cortisol, causing ulcers, pain, and discomfort. Having gone through that stage before, they now choose to live in the present — with patience and calm.
6. They don’t worry, they take action. The universe helps those who help themselves. People who truly love themselves know this. So even though they feel the same fears and uncertainties as everyone else, they don’t let them paralyze them. They understand, as Martin Luther King Jr. said, that “Faith is taking the first step even when you don’t see the whole staircase.” Therefore, instead of getting stuck in their minds imagining apocalyptic futures that almost never happen, they choose to move forward. They dare to act, to make mistakes, to learn, to improve, and to correct course. That’s how they solve, step by step, every puzzle life puts in front of them.
7. They give themselves a second chance. And a third, a fourth, and a tenth if necessary. They’re not ashamed of themselves. Because, as my grandfather used to say, “Whoever is ashamed doesn’t eat or have lunch.” They give themselves permission to fail, to suck, and to learn. Because people who truly love themselves know one big truth: if they don’t give themselves that margin, no one else will. They also understand that behind every adversity there’s an opportunity, since, as C.S. Lewis wrote, “Hardships often prepare ordinary people for an extraordinary destiny.”

I hope it helps.

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I’ll see you on the other side.

A virtual hug,

AG