Are we all a bit hypocrite when it comes to love?

Are we all a bit hypocrite when it comes to love?

I never thought of myself as a hypocrite when it comes to love. I thought I just had my own ideas and opinions and they were pretty normal. That is until I once commented in a post that showed two high school sweethearts together and I said: “Oh how sweet, too bad these kind of loves never last”. To no ones surprise I got many replies, one of them saying “well me and my husband have been happy together since high school for 30 years so go somewhere else with your sad hypocrisy.” All I thought at the time was “ hey yeah your happiness is shining through the screen” , but I didn’t reply. However, after a while the thought that I saw love in a hypocrite way kept bugging me. I started noticing patterns on other people as well, shaped by the kind of love life they had. Even the person that replied to me, I thought she was a hypocrite herself when it came to love. She just thought she was better than anyone else because she had such a long love story, but a happy person is not angry at a stranger on internet for no reason. When I was in a happy marriage, not once did I go to comment on other people’s post something negative, so I do think you should have some kind of messed up life if you have such thoughts when you are on the internet. However, a sort of hypocrisy exists in all of us when we think of love. I see people that find no reason to marry, I see people that say that they have never felt a heartbreak, I see people that say they have never felt alone after a breakup. I see people that claim “ Oh I am so happy after breaking up”. Apparently whatever experience we will have in our love life, it’s going to shape the level of hypocrisy we have when it comes to love. For some people, the worst their experiences have been, the more hypocrite they are. So whenever I see a person that truly doesn’t believe in loving someone very hard and being crazy in love or really heartbroken because they loved so hard, I just think they must have been truly hurt before by someone. So now, I really keep an open mind when it comes to love. However that happens, it’s beautiful. It’s beautiful when it happens when we are young, it’s beautiful in middle age and beautiful later in adulthood. Love is beautiful at any time in our life if it’s real and fuelled by real feelings. Falling in love with someone is something that should happen on your own terms, without being influenced by other stories you have been through. There is always place for a new chapter in the story of your life, and who knows, it might end up being the most beautiful chapter of the whole book.😉

All you have to do is open your heart to love again.