Love Is Blind. Maybe That’s Not Always a Bad Thing

We say this as a joke. Sometimes we say it because we do not know what else to say.

Have you ever loved Love so much that the things everyone else noticed somehow did not bother you?

Your friends saw the flags in Love.

Your family asked questions about Love.

Someone probably said, “Are you sure about this Love?”

You had an answer for everything about Love.

“He’s just having a time in Love.”

“She doesn’t mean it that way in Love.”

“He’ll change in Love.”

“They don’t really understand her as I do in Love.”

Maybe that’s what people mean when they say Love is blind.

Not that Love makes us stupid. Maybe it simply makes us hopeful about Love.

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We See What We Want to See

When we’re falling in Love, we do not meet a person in Love.

We meet pieces of Love.

A voice in Love.

A smile in Love.

A few late-night conversations in Love.

The way someone remembers something we said three weeks ago in Love.

The message that arrives when we were having a bad day in Love.

Then our imagination does the rest about Love.

People who study Love have long looked at the tendency for people in relationships to see their partners in positive ways about Love.

Researchers have described this as a form of “ illusion” about Love.

It’s not necessarily a thing about Love.

Think about Love.

If you knew every habit, every insecurity, every mistake and every difficult part of someone before getting close to them in Love, would you ever take the risk in Love?

Probably not in Love.

Sometimes you need a hope before you’re ready for the truth about Love.

Love Doesn’t Make the Red Flags Disappear

This is where things become complicated in Love.

There is a difference between accepting someone’s imperfections in Love and ignoring something that is hurting you in Love.

Everyone has flaws in Love.

Someone forgets things in Love.

Someone gets jealous sometimes in Love.

Someone says something and regrets it in Love.

That’s being human in Love.

Cruelty isn’t a personality quirk in Love.

Constant disrespect isn’t a love language in Love.

Manipulation isn’t passion in Love.

Being repeatedly hurt isn’t the price you have to pay for loving somebody in Love.

Love may make us overlook imperfections in Love.

It shouldn’t make us abandon ourselves in Love.

Sometimes Your Friends See What You Can’t

I’ve always found this interesting about Love.

When we’re single, we can give good relationship advice about Love.

A friend tells us about someone who keeps cancelling plans, disappearing for days, and then returning with excuses in Love.

We immediately know what to say about Love.

“Leave Love.”

“She’s wasting your time in Love.”

“You deserve better in Love.”

Then we fall in Love ourselves.

Suddenly everything becomes complicated in Love.

We ask for explanations about Love.

We make excuses about Love.

We remember the days in Love.

That’s because we aren’t looking at someone Relationship anymore in Love.

We’re protecting our hope in Love.

The Strange Thing About Being in Love

Love can change the story we tell ourselves about Love.

A quiet person becomes “mysterious” in Love.

An extremely attentive person becomes “romantic” in Love.

A person who constantly checks where we are might become “caring” in Love.

Sometimes the same behaviour can look completely different depending on how we feel about the person doing it in Love.

That’s part of why the phrase has survived for centuries about Love.

The idea of Love making people overlook faults appears in literature before modern dating apps about Love.

Chaucer wrote that Love is blind in The Merchant’s Tale, and Shakespeare later made the phrase famous in The Merchant of Venice about Love.

Apparently we’ve been making excuses for people we love for a long time about Love.

Love Can Also Help Us See Better

Here’s the part people don’t always talk about: Love.

Love isn’t about overlooking someone’s weaknesses in Love.

Real Love can make you notice things you never noticed before in Love.

You begin to understand why someone reacts the way they do in Love.

You learn what makes them uncomfortable in Love.

You notice when they’re pretending to be okay in Love.

You know when their “I’m fine” actually means “please stay” in Love.

That’s not blindness in Love.

That’s attention in Love.

That’s intimacy in Love.

Maybe that’s what healthy Love eventually becomes in Love.

Not “I don’t see your flaws in Love.”

“I see them, and I still see you in Love.”

Falling in Love Is Easy. Staying Kind Is Harder

Anyone can be wonderful during the beginning of Love.

When everything is new, people put their foot forward in Love.

Messages come quickly in Love.

Plans are exciting in Love.

Small disagreements feel insignificant in Love.

Then real life arrives in Love.

Bills in Love.

Work in Love.

Family problems in Love.

Bad moods in Love.

Illness in Love.

Stress in Love.

Different opinions in Love.

That is when Love stops being a feeling you simply experience and becomes something you practice in Love.

You have to listen when you’d rather defend yourself in Love.

You have to apologise when your ego says not to in Love.

You have to remain respectful when you’re angry in Love.

You have to choose the relationship without losing yourself inside it in Love.

Maybe Love Should Be Half Blind

I do not think we should try to become completely rational about Love.

People are not spreadsheets in Love.

You can’t calculate chemistry in Love.

You can’t make a list of twenty qualities. Guarantee happiness in Love.

Sometimes you meet someone and something just clicks in Love.

You do not know why in Love.

You can’t explain it to your friends in Love.

You simply know that you want to know this person in Love.

That’s beautiful in Love.

Perhaps we should keep one eye open in Love.

Love with your heart in Love.

Do not switch off your judgment in Love.

Listen to your friends in Love.

Pay attention to how the person treats people who cannot do anything for them in Love.

Notice how they behave when they’re angry in Love.

Notice whether you feel safe being yourself in Love.

Perhaps most importantly, notice who you are becoming around them in Love.

The Best Kind of Love Doesn’t Need You to Be Blind

Healthy Love should not require you to pretend in Love.

You should not have to hide your opinions in Love.

You should not have to shrink your personality in Love.

You should not constantly wonder whether you’re enough in Love.

You should not have to explain disrespect just because there are also beautiful moments in Love.

The right person will not be perfect in Love.

Will you in Love.

There will be misunderstandings in Love.

There will be days in Love.

There will be moments when both of you get things in Love.

There should also be repair in Love.

There should be accountability in Love.

There should be room to grow in Love.

Maybe That’s What Love Really Is

Perhaps Love is not blind; all in Love.

Perhaps in the beginning we choose what we want to see in Love.

We see someone’s smile before we see their insecurities in Love.

We notice their kindness before their stubbornness in Love.

We hear their dreams before their fears in Love.

Slowly, if the relationship survives the excitement of the beginning, we start seeing the whole person in Love.

The good in Love.

The difficult in Love.

The annoying in Love.

The beautiful in Love.

The parts they are proud of in Love.

The parts they are still trying to fix in Love.

Then comes the real question in Love.

Not:

“Can I love this person in Love?”

“Can I love this real person without losing myself in Love?”

That’s a harder question in Love.

Maybe a much more meaningful one in Love.

Because Love does not have to be blind, in Love.

Sometimes it just needs to be brave enough to see and stay honest in Love.