About The Abortion My Wife And I Had In November 1978

Though I regretted it for years afterward, I no longer regret it.

She showed up pregnant again just months after we had our second child.

I panicked. We aborted the child, a decision we regretted for years. And she probably still regrets it.

But I no longer regret it. Giving birth can no longer be justified. We must rise up against our impulses and decline to have children.

Because when we have children, we just doom them to a life as miserable as our own, probably worse.

But back then, there were consequence to the abortion. I remember one time I went up to the altar during a church service, and cried and cried over our dear sweet baby, who would be seeing us from on high in heaven and smiling.

That was foolishness of course. But my ex probably still believes it.

So it cost a lot of guilt. And it produced a tension between her and I which was never resolved.

My parents paid the $200. And that made my ex hate my father for the rest of his life.

So there were consequences. But sitting where I sit now, I no longer regret the abortion.

Here’s a short paragraph about the “anti-natalism” of the South American philosopher Julio Cabrera.

Julio Cabrera’s Negative Ethics rejects the traditional assumption that human life is an inherent good, arguing instead that existence is defined by “structural discomfort” — a built-in trajectory toward decay, suffering, and death — alongside “moral impediment,” the structural impossibility of surviving without harming or competing against others. Because an unborn child cannot consent to being placed into a terminal environment that inherently forces moral compromise, Cabrera framed procreation as an act of total manipulation rather than a gift. His anti-natalist stance stems directly from this obligation of non-manipulation, concluding that refraining from bringing new life into existence is the only way to spare someone the inescapable physical friction and ethical burdens of human life.