How “Forbidden” Spa Sex Feels More Intense Than Home Sex.

(The Psychology of the Locked Door).

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Disclaimer: This story is rated 18+, please know that readers discretion is highly recommended. This article is only for education, information and fun, no hate or discrimination. Thank you for your attention to this matter.

I never intended to make any sort of comparisons. My marriage is personal, secure and loving. As I lay on a heated massage table in a dark private room, however, my heart was pounding as a near stranger caressed me in a manner that sent my body into an ecstasy that I rarely felt at home in. I was left with the question, why is anything bad when it’s forbidden? The psychology of the locked door.

There is a strong shift that takes place at the instant that the door snaps closed. You are suddenly cut off from the outside world — kids calling your name, work e-mails or a mental to-do list of tasks for tomorrow gone. There is only one room, and you’re here for one hour. The secretiveness turns into an aphrodisiac. It’s as if the excitement of intimacy has been lost just because it’s known that this moment is hidden, contained and stolen.

In that private space – no performance expectations, no pleasing. No need to worry about the mood, fatigue and the possibility of the kids waking up to your partner. Your therapist only comes to work for one thing; your pleasure. That one thing allows for freedom, freedom that is charged with possibilities of peril. Your body relaxes in ways that it doesn’t at home which raises your sensations to build and last longer.

The Thrill is what makes it all the more enjoyable.The Thrill makes it all the more enjoyable. The excitement goes beyond just intensifying the physical aspect, it enhances it. All the touches are accentuated. From the warm oil rubbing my back, hands clenching my hips, the savoring of my body by him in a slow, deliberate manner, it all went differently when presented in the guise of risk and novelty. My skin was a lot more sensitive. I started to take more rapid breaths. My orgasms were deeper and harder to come by, rolling through me, shaking me and leaving me breathless.

Partly it’s just a psychological trick. More dopamine is released in the brain when something is “forbidden.” The thrill of it is even more pronounced than would be experienced in normal life. Sex at home is easy and natural, it looks different in a positive way, but is often routine. In the spa, it is intensified: it is new and fresh, it is professional and it is known that there are very definite limits and an expiration date.

I was in that room with more vigour than I’d been in for months at home. It wasn’t because the technique was necessarily good, but because I was conscious and awake and had no distractions because of everyday life. As it was forbidden, it removed the inhibitions, and unleashed raw desire. The dangers and the draw! Now the fun begins. It’s the same intoxicating feeling that comes with it that is dangerous. It can be addictive to be secretive. After an emotional high, often the desire for this kind of experience will persist, which may lead you to seek it out again and again. Walking a fine line enjoying the release while keeping from hurting what is most precious to them at home, many women say. It is only natural that the draw would be there. We’re so encased in the modern world, that many of us are touched and mentally overworked. A “forbidden” session is one in which you will surrender completely and without having to do any emotional labour. It’s efficient. It’s contained. For an hour it can be as if it were pure medicine to the hungry body and restless mind!

I still remember that level of intensity, from time to time. In that locked room, my body reacted fully how it did.My body reacted so completely in that locked room how. The contrast taught me a lesson that I was able to gain from: I can get a lot of pleasure and joy out of it, but we have to know how to because of the mundane of everyday life. Rather it wasn’t the end of my marriage but it was a gentle reminder to my marriage of bringing more presence, novelty and focus into my inner marriage. It’s not a fantasy pursuit of forbidden, it’s reality.

It amplifies everything. However, it has a price tag as well, which each woman must decide upon for herself. You’ve probably felt that urge, the one to have a look at what is behind a closed door and at that point sharp hands.You’ve probably felt that urge that you have, the curiosity as to what lies behind a closed door, and then at that point sharp hands. There is a tension in us, comfort/strength, loyalty/hunger, out of which many of us go.

The table is silent. The door can lock up in a split-second. But in that private area, it’s not always easy to draw a distinction between need and desire.

Disclaimer: This story is rated 18+, please know that readers discretion is highly recommended. This article is only for education, information and fun, no hate or discrimination. Thank you for your attention to this matter.

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