Are you 'Zen' enough?!

Spirituality- A Door to Healing?

It often takes significant disappointments over time for people to turn to God or believe that God is the ultimate solution to their challenges.

Some of the ways individuals inadvertently hinder their healing process is by engaging in spiritual practices such as non-attachment or non-desire.

Consider this scenario: you’ve met with an accident and injured your legs. What would your immediate response be? Naturally, you’d tend to the wound.

Now, imagine being advised to dissociate from the pain and let it be. Would the pain subside? No, it wouldn’t. In fact, it could lead to infection and other complications. Similarly, when a wound is left untreated or allowed to heal on its own, it often results in an irregular, scarred outcome.

This analogy illustrates the potential downside of not desiring or practicing non-attachment to life. It signifies a lack of active participation in life to seek resolutions and create opportunities for oneself.

Many people turn to spirituality in search of validation for their suffering or answers to questions they can’t quite grasp. Above all, they seek answers that can alleviate their pain and give purpose to their existence.

The only people who will consciously seek out a purpose are those who have experienced situations where they felt unworthy or have been subjected to actions that implanted the idea of unworthiness within them”- let this sentence sink in.

The deprivation of love that accompanies the feeling of unworthiness deepens their practices and beliefs, often with a prerequisite of not enduring any suffering, just because they are closer to God. (I empathize with God for the pressure they might feel to meet the expectations of people.)

Spiritual bypassing occurs at an intensity that leads to phrases like "attachment leads to pain," "reality is an illusion," "desiring is bad" used to shame people into abandoning themselves. Within the context of spirituality, the word "attachment" is often seen as intrusive (he who must not be named).

It’s another illusory trap of societal structure where the spiritual community approves of you for having 'zen' qualities or molds you to have those since it’s the 'new cool’.

Ironically, the spiritual community has become so fragmented that it has lost sight of its dysfunction and how it perpetuates it. They have lost the meaning/purpose of life in finding the meaning/purpose of life ( a thought worth pondering).

The prevailing quality among self-proclaimed spiritual individuals is that they have often endured intensely traumatic experiences. Their minds remain in a constant state of survival, anticipating threats. They turn to these practices as coping mechanisms, which leads us to a crucial distinction: there is a substantial difference between surviving and truly living.

It’s amusing to observe people preaching/ practising non-attachment, contradicting their idea of the universe and oneness. You can’t feel the feeling of oneness if you aren’t taking the universe as a part of you and since they are so attached to the part of them and the concept of non-attachment that they can’t see how they are attached to it. And not wanting or desiring anything in itself is a desire (the irony).

So, the question arises: is being spiritual wrong? Absolutely not. Many, including myself, embrace spirituality. We cherish the concept of oneness and explore it in various ways.

A genuine spiritual practitioner comprehends the essence of spirituality. It doesn’t stem from a place of fear of pain or a perpetual state of survival or a desire for personal gain. These individuals understands their divinity and their humanness- incorporating both aspects of themselves to elevate the feeling of oneness and life. It’s an innate understanding of not wanting to do something extra to be or feel spiritual- the state of "being" is spiritual.

If you were to seek guidance from a true spiritual practitioner, they would guide you to align with your life. They would never disregard your reality or blame you for it. They would not encourage you to practice non-attachment to avoid pain, and they certainly would not discourage your desires. Instead, they would teach you about genuine connections and how to establish and secure them. They would help you identify your desires and inspire you to take action to manifest them in reality. Above all, they will be an active bystander in your journey of becoming one within yourself (not that you aren’t already, but you need a reminder).

In times when everyone is trying different approaches to healing, it’s essential not to rush blindly into the healing process. The real question to ask is whether you are pursuing these practices out of a fear of missing out. Genuine well-being should come from feeling genuinely good, not from forcing yourself to believe something feels good.

In nutshell, humans are inherently social beings. We need connections and relationships. Isolating oneself in the name of non-attachment and aspiring to cultivate "zen" qualities can be a defense mechanism against the traumas one has endured, it’s a disintegration process. True healing involves integration.

Love and light..✨🍀💜