I Tried to Fix My Low Self-Esteem for Years — Here’s What Actually Helped

Whenever I made a small mistake, I would immediately tell myself that I was stupid. I believed I was weird, ugly, and somehow less than everyone else. Looking back, I realize that I was much harder on myself than I ever was on other people.

One thing that always struck me was this: if I spoke to someone else the way I spoke to myself, they probably wouldn’t want to be my friend.

For years, I tried different ways to fix it. I practiced positive affirmations, read about neuroscience and hypnosis, and searched for answers everywhere. But nothing really changed.

Then, a few years ago, I discovered journaling. Writing helped me understand my thoughts and emotions more clearly. I also read a book about the five wounds that prevent us from being ourselves, and I started to realize that my struggles went much deeper than I had imagined.

Eventually, I started therapy. For the first time, I felt truly understood. Little by little, I learned how to be kinder to myself.

I’m still learning, but I’ve come a long way.

If you’re struggling with self-criticism, know that you’re not alone. Maybe therapy could help. Maybe journaling, reading, or simply talking to someone you trust. Different things work for different people.

What matters is that you keep looking for what helps you understand yourself better.

I hope this post helps someone who needs to hear it.