Your Life isn’t over, you are only in your TWENTIES

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“I think, for the majority of my twenties, I was always so concerned with what I didn’t have, or what I still wanted.” -Adam Lambert

If I could describe my early twenties in one word, it would be: Urgency.

Urgency to achieve. Urgency to be seen. Urgency to become.

I didn’t realise I was rushing through the very decade that was made to teach me how to live and introduce me to the concept of Life.

It is widely believed that the neocortex doesn’t fully develop until approximately 25 years of age, which loosely means your frontal lobe isn’t done cooking yet. And somehow, that explains a lot.

I’m not an expert in self-help or self-improvement talk. But what I can say for certain about your twenties is this: you are constantly in a rush to grow older.

And then, like magic, once you get to the midpoint, the daunting and slightly horrific thought of turning 30 starts to keep you up at night, and you begin to realise that you are no longer as young as you used to be.

In your twenties, you will make friends who feel more like family. And you will lose most of those friendships before the decade is out.

YES!! Your parents were right, a thousand friends can’t be friends for a thousand years.

You will love so strongly that you’ll be convinced you’ve found your soulmate.

You will make decisions and life choices that, when you remember them later, might make you cringe a little.

But in the moment, in your twenties, it feels like no one understands. It feels like you are living a chapter that has never been written before.

You will love. You will experience loss. You will feel like you are hanging on for dear life.

It will feel as though you if you don’t achieve everything you dreamed of as a child, you are a failure.

But here’s the truth: those dreams will change.

You will shift. You will outgrow phases. You will wake up one day and realise you no longer want what you once thought you needed.

Your twenties are not the conclusion of your life. They are the introduction.

Your life isn’t over.

You are only learning how to live.

You are learning how to thrive.

You are in your Twenties.