for the girls deemed “too much”

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Hi, this blog post is for anyone who self-identifies with the MBTI type “ENFP”. This is a safe space for you all. If you have no idea what I’m talking about, allow me to elaborate.

MBTI stands for Myers-Briggs Type Indicator, and the idea is that everyone falls in 1 of 16 possible personality types. A very complicated and elaborate process (for me at least) to go through, I think I have finally found mine. I think I most closely resemble the personality of an ENFP.

An ENFP is of the “Campaigner” archetype. We are described as the storytellers and the dreamers, and are easily recognizable for our traits of charisma, sociability, enthusiasm, and energy. As soon as I heard these traits, I said, “Yup, I think we’re done here.” I think also seeing myself in various other characters on television and feeling similar to certain celebrities has helped me feel better about my personality, as sometimes I can feel dimmed pretty often. If any of these people sound like you, you’re in the right place. Jess Day, Leslie Knope, Jennifer Lawrence, Erin Hannon, Carrie Bradshaw, Drew Barrymore, Poppy Wright. Every single one of these female characters or celebrities is thought to be somewhat of an ENFP, and I’m living for it! I love being an ENFP.

I wasn’t always the most extroverted, but I’ve found that the more I’ve been alive, the more social I become. I love talking to new people, and feel like the best words to describe me are “big ball of sunshine”, because I just feel my best when I’m sharing my enthusiasm with as many people as possible, being energetic and emotional, and any other word that starts with e practically. Extra, extravagant, eager, excited, etc.

One of the things I do find myself thinking about from time to time is how annoying I might come off to other people. I’ve gotten better about not caring what others think, but it’s definitely a process. Sometimes I am told to tone it down, or that I’m being too loud, or my energy level needs to be brought down a touch, and those are sometimes hurtful. They dim my light, not brighten it. Sometimes I feel like I talk too much, and about too silly things, or I joke around too often, and everyone thinks they can’t hold a serious conversation with me. Yes, I have asked before, “Do you ever think I’m too funny?” And I’m still waiting for a genuine answer. Like, am I or am I not? I guess whatever people think about me doesn’t concern me; it only matters what I think of myself. I think I carry a sort of uniqueness and personality that hopefully uplifts others, and they feel like they can be themselves around me, as I am 100% with them. Sometimes 110%.

I just recently watched the book-turned-into-a-movie adaptation of People We Meet On Vacation, and stunning, loved it, no notes. Maybe a few, but for another post. I eat up a romcom with an annoyingly bubbly female main character every. Single. Time. I thought of another character, Anna from Frozen, like literally she is me, I am her. Anyways, let’s get back on track. I watched this movie, and the monologue Emily Bader performs as Poppy Wright, professing her love to Alex Nilsen, played by Tom Blyth, hit home. Here it is, for youuuu:

“I always felt like… if I stayed in one place too long… everyone would see that I’m too much. Even you. So one week a year with you… it was safe. It’s all that I thought that I could have.”

The “one week a year with you” talk is because they’re two best friends who take a yearly trip together, and it spans over more than a decade. It’s a friends-to-lovers romcom, and those are my absolute most favorite. It really struck me to my core because sometimes I do hear my voice and my actions and my words, and I’m like, “Did I really just say that?”, and just wonder why, but I don’t know, I love me for me. I love my personality and being able to see it on my TV and in my books. I love getting to see it out in the real world and see that I don’t have to change myself for others; I don’t have to make myself fit into other people’s boxes. I am boundless, and I am not “too much”. Neither are you.

If you have any interest in finding out your Myers-Briggs type, I recommend researching the different functions. Here’s a link to a website that might help you:

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