What do Hotwife couples want in a Single Male Profile?

Someone posted a question in one of the Reddit groups I follow, which inspired me to write the following response. Below is the original question, and below that is my response.

What do couples like to see in a profile?

I am on a couple of online sites, and I always wonder what to put in my profile to attract couples for MFM. One person told me to look at other SM profiles, and they range from one sentence like “If you are DTF, DM me” to some that write a novel. So, what do you like to see?

My Response…

Many couples are looking for solo males as frequently as for solo females. Unfortunately, single/solo males have a terrible reputation.

‘Single’ refers to someone’s relationship status. ‘Solo’ refers to someone’s availability for sexual adventures. Someone can be married and be available to play solo.

Single Males who are Married

Many ‘single’ males are married, hoping they won’t get caught. They schedule many dates with different people, hoping the timing works out. They flake at the last minute when the timing doesn’t work out.

Many couples would prefer a married male with a permission slip. You can call someone’s wife and verify that someone has permission, but you cannot call someone to verify that you are not married. You cannot prove a negative, right?

If you are a married male with a permission slip, advertise that fact. People will want to verify that. So, there’s no point in advertising that unless your wife is willing to pick up the phone and verify your permission slip.

Network, Develop a Good Reputation

You can show up to meet-and-greets, socialize, and network. You can develop a reputation for yourself within the community. Word will spread once the community decides you’re a likable chap, respectful, with good boundaries, and that you show up when expected.

MFM Couples Have a Special Erotic Bond

MFM situations are about the couple’s sexual dynamic. You are a sex toy in their relationship. The woman has permission and encouragement from her man because he deeply enjoys watching her in sexual ecstasy. She enjoys pleasing him by sexually engaging others. She loves the permission he gives her to explore sexually.

It’s about them. Their relationship is not faltering. She is not available for romance. Attempting to text her on the side, meet her on the side, or do anything similar will get you the boot.

Within the MFM scenario, every couple is different. It goes without saying that what each woman wants is different. But what might not be apparent is that her man’s pleasures and desires are central to her thoughts and activities. And, each man is different.

Many Types of Participation

In a Hotwife situation, the man deeply enjoys watching or knowing about his wife’s sexual pleasure with others. He may wish to participate. He might wish to watch. She might describe her encounters to him in glorious detail later.

He may wish to participate all the way through. Or, his greatest joy might be reclamation sex after the two of you have had your fun. They might expect you to exit shortly after you finish so he can enjoy slippery seconds.

He might not be present. Maybe she’ll call and put him on the phone so he can hear what you are doing. She may enlist your assistance in taking photos or videos that she can share with him later.

Hotwifing is not Cuckolding

In Hotwifing relationships, the man takes pride and pleasure in his wife’s sexual pleasure and prowess.

In this scenario, the man has no desire to be dominated or humiliated.

Acting all dominant and treating them like a cuckold couple is likely to doom your chances.

In Summary

Don’t make any assumptions about what they do or don’t want from you.

Let them know that you see them as a unique couple and are interested in talking with them and learning all about their unique pleasure dynamics. They want to know if you will make this a positive experience for both of them. As much as you feel comfortable, let them know you will accommodate their preferences.

Ask them to meet for a social-only first date so you can check out your chemistry and discuss their needs and desires to see if you are all a good fit.

Then, show up to the meeting on time, ask thoughtful questions that demonstrate your desire to learn about them, and listen more than you talk.

That will put you ahead of about 90% of the other single males.

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