The Evil Female Narcissist

Why do we pretend female narcissists aren’t harmful to humanity?

This is going to be a controversial topic, but I have never written any of my public articles for views or clicks — and so, I don’t care if people want to follow me or not. You may in fact be reading one of the few writings of a person who doesn’t try to make money online, because I am actually a published literary writer. Writing on Medium is a hobby.

So what I am going to say will offend many, but it needs to be said right now, because I am a defender of truth and justice.

We have heard so many stories of trauma by women regarding men. There are countless videos on the internet about women talking about men and the trauma and pain inflicted on them by these narcissistic men. Truth be told, I have not been untouched by this myself; however, the greatest trauma in my life was caused by a narcissistic mother and many women at my workplaces. In the end, it was actually always men who tried to counteract the harm done by these women. At my work, it was never other women who came out to defend me, it was men.

Princella Clark (a prominent social media figure) is right. Women are just as narcissistic as men. Read that again. For example, how many women have suffered under the cold, cruel upbringing by a narcissistic mother? There are countless of us who suffered, and still pay the price to this day. I have siblings who have been in therapy for years. I have relatives from the same family who exhibit the same narcissism, either due to years of conditioning and trauma, or genetic expression. There is nothing you can do for the latter. Absolutely nothing.

My sister still goes to therapy. I can’t even describe the level of insidiousness that I witnessed perpetrated on her. Despite how different we are, I still supported her. When my mother attacked her one day, I stood in front of my sister and told my mother to back off. My sister was a straight-A student who received a scholarship to attend a college in California. When my mother told her she couldn’t go, my sister wondered why. She was told, “because there are boys there.” That was the single reason why my sister coudn’t go to school on her scholarship.

My mother ruined many lives, not just those of her own children. I have watched this arrogant boomer who lives off of our taxes, drinking wine mixed with her medications, while she terrorizes people on a large scale. We once had a student teacher living with us she caused harm to. The teacher was so frightened that she started crying in front of us. I’ve had to call the police on my own mother, as her cruelty could escalate to a state of seeming psychosis. My mother has terrorized hundreds of people, including strangers. I once watched her barrel through a crowd with a shopping cart, narrowly missing two little girls. She was “angry” that day, because she didn’t get what she wanted. This sense of entitlement has stayed with her her entire life, because she believes that she is the true victim.

Have you noticed that with narcissists? Especially female narcissists and psychopaths? They are always the victim. Everything is about them. They want pity, but have no compassion for anyone else. If you bring up a medical disorder, suddenly they also have the same disorder. If you are crying, they become angry, because they want to be the only one people are pitying. Narcissists cannot stand not being center stage, it’s all about them, all the time.

And yes, many of them are women. At my workplaces, I’ve been terrorized by women too. One of my managers would speak to me using violent terms, as if she wanted to actually murder me. The hatred in her eyes was so strong that I would avoid her as much as possible. She would stalk her employees while skipping out early every day, and eventually ruined our department as we lost clients. The manager I had before that would cruelly pick on my teammates. When I would stick up for them, my coworkers would suddenly become braver and stand up for themselves too. That’s the thing — we need to band together against these monsters. They try to go after those they believe are defenseless. Don’t let them do this to you or others. Don’t allow them even an inch!

I want to bring awareness of narcissistic abuse into the light, and we need to acknowledge the cruelty of female narcissists/psychopaths, the same way we emphasise it with the male variety. While many women have been damaged by relationships with male narcissists, plenty more have been harmed by narcissistic female mothers, relatives, coworkers, managers, and friends.

I will continue writing on this topic in another article. Stay tuned.