Speed Dating

Should You Try Speed Dating If You’re Shy or Introverted?

I’m sure you guys (or at least some of you here) have seen those YouTube videos of speed dating events. They seem great, really.

You get the opportunity to meet with potential matches in a structured environment. But they also seem really hectic.

Typical Speed Dating Events Go like This:

• There’s an even number (or at least close to it) of men and women.
• You all have designated seats.
• Men typically go from table to table to introduce themselves and **chat with the women**.
• Interactions last for 5–10 minutes.

As someone who has participated in this type of event, I can tell you that you really have to be prepared.

How should you present yourself without being cringe? What kind of topics do you want to discuss? What questions should you ask to reveal the other person’s values and goals?

I’ve had shy and introverted friends tell me that they could never see themselves searching for singles in this manner. It can be overwhelming and anxiety-inducing.

So, should you sit this one out after all?

Speed Dating Experience

I think it’s worth trying regardless. Take this person’s experience, for example: Speed Dating in Colombia.

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Shawn is a bachelor from the U.S. He came to Medellin with the assistance of an interracial dating agency.

He participated in one of their speed dating events, where they introduced him to local women. Compared to similar events in the U.S., there was an overwhelming number of female participants and only a few men.

Looking at it from an objective perspective, the tides seem to be in Shawn’s favor. There’s less competition, meaning there’s a greater chance of him scoring a date, and perhaps even a relationship.

But it was actually really intimidating. Shawn’s not even shy or introverted, but even he had a hard time.

Fortunately, these Latina women seeking arrangements with Western men like him are very welcoming.

“The women actually made me feel comfortable. They helped me break the ice, especially the first table, they were really loud and vibrant. It was a whole lot of fun.”

While men who attend these events usually say that 5–10 is already a lot because of the pressure, Shawn actually thought it wasn’t enough time.

By the end of the night, he had found a connection with one of the women.

Here’s Why Speed Dating Can Be Worth It

Based on Shawn’s experience (and also considering my own), speed dating, although fast-paced and can be overwhelming, is still a great way to meet single women.

• You can meet potential matches all at once.
• The time limit means that there’s no pressure to sustain a long conversation.
• Interacting with multiple women at one table ensures that the conversation keeps flowing. Among five people, at least one would have something to say or ask.
• If you’re not confident in the dating game, the first few interactions can serve as your training ground.

But then again, it depends on how the speed dating event is organized. The one Shawn attended can definitely work in the favor of shy and introverted people.

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