The more that you want something, the further away it gets.

You know what I very much avoid in life? Manifesting.

Dead Poets Society

This phenomenon affects my life in desiring and becoming obsess on a specific dream. How come that the more I wanted something, the further it gets or cannot be granted, and only when you stop wanting something that you desperately wanted before — it’s comes back and just.. appear in your life.

From the moment , when we are desperate to achieve something, we are too focused on the result rather than the journey and hence we overlook many things, like our possibility of achieving it, how much it’s worth, and we just think that our life is incomplete without the thing that we want.

— someone in reddit.

The more the we are more focused on the outcome, results would come in a situation in where we would crumble and just break.

We keep imagining how our life would be with it achieved. And all these things lead to us not focusing on the real work that needs to be put. We many times become Nihilistic and just curse ourselves that, ‘Why can’t I have it?’ and this collapses pretty bad to a point where we regret decisions dating back years. And we get deviated from our goal to the result after its achievement.

— someone in reddit

The law of attraction

You attract according to the vibration you’re in. This thing we live in — molecular structure, your body is a mass of energy. Feeling is conscious, to where it is of the vibration we’re in

— Bob Proctor

I was watching this earlier, Bob Proctor explained how the law of attraction works. Okay, stay with me. He was just explaining how you can get what you want if you stop aspiring with it. Accept what destiny is offering you and stop desiring, give up your ego and start getting better at things and you’ll achieve wonders.

I already accepted this phenomenon, I know this is like a system in my life.. in where, I barely chase or wish for something — in short manifest.

I realized this when I was in 8th grade, I would manifest the same way that my best friend did before — she would make her own report card and just add numbers that would sum up into a passing grade. I did that too, and you know what happened, I became obsessed and by the time that our report card was released— I saw my grades and it looks like something that isn’t even important.

I feel like that was on me, I don’t know why but it just happened, I got too obsessed in studying — I did overthink how the outcome will look like if I didn’t pass my exam, because I was tired, but I realized.. I was doing the wrong thing. I wasn’t motivated, my ego was too high that I thought I could do it. From that moment on, it became a mark for me to do not try hard, but don’t do less.

It goes the same way for making too much effort.

Because our destiny is like this:

You cannot predict what it is, you cannot really expect what will happened. Our consciousness is the one that attracts a certain thing or an event, you cannot really process or solve it like a puzzle because you don’t know what will happen in the future.

Your consciousness is your knowledge, that’s how you perceive the world after your subconsciousness. Your consciousness is the vibration, that’s what you needed to change in order to attract what you deserve. If not, your dream will just become a dream — you also need to change the way that you dream, don’t be specific, if that even makes sense.

Do not let your dreams control you, don’t let your expectation deceive you. Because in the end of the day, it was really all on you.