People change overnight, or in an instant, and that is human nature.

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Sometimes, it’s hard to let go of someone you thought you were going to share your future with someone who made you feel loved and seen, someone you wanted to take care of. But life doesn’t always go as planned. Sometimes, the most unexpected events take place in our lives, completely breaking us into pieces. You lose that person… the one you thought was never going to leave you alone.

People change overnight, or in an instant, and that is human nature. You cannot force someone to stay with you if they have already made up their mind to leave. Sometimes, you do everything you can — even if that means begging that person to stay. But someone who has the heart of a nomad will never truly keep you alone in their sphere of love; they crave change. They cannot stay with one individual for long, and that is a reality you need to understand

“Sometimes, it’s necessary to let go for the sake of your own sanity.”

Letting go is hard; it’s painful and unbearable. But it is also important to step into a new phase of life without them, so that you realize your own worth — that you matter, too. Letting go gives you peace of mind and the space to think and analyze the events. You think about all the promises you made, all the things you wanted to do together, and the future you imagined with them. And now that they are gone, you’re left wondering: how are you going to do all of that without them?

Think about all the countless obstacles you crossed before you ever met them. Think about how you lived your life before they arrived. If you were living like that before them, you can live like that after them. You don’t need them, even if your heart says you do. You are enough for yourself. You are what you need the most. You can do it alone, and you can do it scared — but you will do it.

If they did you wrong, karma will get them. Yes, you might feel hurt and betrayed, but it’s okay. Someone who left you without a second thought should never be deserving of your tears or your worth. Even if they keep coming back, set that invisible boundary; make it clear that they are not welcomed. They come back because, oftentimes, they are drowning in their own guilt. Because they are aware of their wrongdoing, they seek validation and that’s why they return. But their return doesn’t guarantee you a peaceful life or a love that’s already long gone. They come back because they could not find someone like you who would tolerate everything they did, and that’s the only reason. They want to feel like they did nothing wrong so they can feel better about themselves, but you must never let them enter your life again.

Stop looking for closure. The only closure you need is this: they don’t care and never will, and you do not need them. Learn to let go of anything or anyone that keeps hurting you, that holds you back from moving forward, and that doesn’t let you grow. Know your potential and start acting upon it. Make yourself better than ever. You will be fine. You will be the happiest you’ve ever been. You will see the best days ahead in your future.

Don’t let anyone stop you from loving yourself. You are needed in the world; don’t doubt your worth. What is meant to happen will happen. People will come and go, but you are always with yourself. You are what makes you unique, so start smiling. Stop feeling like you need someone else in your life, because you will make it through anyhow and that’s what makes you strong. So, take a deep breath, and let them go with happiness.