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The Village We Pretend We Don’t Need.

Arun moved to the city at twenty-seven with two suitcases and a quiet determination to never need anyone again.

Abbi · 2026-05-13 17:35 · 4 claps · 4.5 min read
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The Village We Pretend We Don’t Need.

Arun moved to the city at twenty-seven with two suitcases and a quiet determination to never need anyone again.

Back home, life had always felt crowded.

Neighbors walked into the house without knocking. Relatives commented on everything his job, his clothes, his future marriage. If he sat alone too long, someone asked what was wrong. Every problem became public property.

So when he got a job in Bangalore, he left without hesitation.

For the first time, life belonged only to him.

He rented a small apartment on the fourteenth floor. Bought expensive headphones. Learned to cook three decent meals. Built routines that made him feel efficient and adult.

Morning coffee. Gym after work. Groceries delivered every Sunday. Bills automated. Emotions managed privately.

He liked the silence of his apartment most.

No unexpected visitors. No obligations. No explanations.

If someone exhausted him, he stopped replying. If a friendship became difficult, he let it fade.

“Protect your peace,” people online said.

So he did.

Years passed that way.

From the outside, Arun looked successful. He had the kind of life people envied stable career, clean apartment, independence.

Then one night at 2:13 a.m., his phone rang.

His father had collapsed.

By sunrise, Arun was on a flight home staring blankly out the window while his mother cried through broken phone calls.

When he reached the village, the house was already full.

Footwear scattered outside the door. Steel tumblers clinking in the kitchen. Voices everywhere.

An uncle he barely spoke to was arranging funeral documents.

A neighbor was making tea for visitors.

Women from nearby houses sat beside his mother, holding her hands in silence.

Nobody asked what needed to be done.

People simply started doing things.

For three days, the house never emptied.

Someone cooked. Someone cleaned. Someone handled phone calls. Someone stayed awake with his mother at night.

It was loud. Messy. Exhausting.

And strangely comforting.

One evening, Arun stepped outside for air.

His grandmother was sitting on the veranda peeling peas into a steel bowl.

“You should sleep,” he told her.

She shrugged. “Your mother shouldn’t be alone tonight.”

Arun sat beside her quietly.

After a while she asked, “Who would sit with you like this in your city?”

The question hit harder than condolences had.

Because Arun genuinely didn’t know.

He had friends, technically.

People he met for dinner sometimes. Coworkers who reacted with sad emojis. Contacts in his phone.

But if his life collapsed at 2 a.m., who would arrive without being asked?

Who would stay?

Back in Bangalore a week later, everything resumed immediately.

Emails. Meetings. Traffic. Food delivery notifications.

One evening his sink pipe burst under the kitchen counter.

Water spilled across the floor while he searched YouTube for plumbing tutorials.

And suddenly he felt ridiculous.

Not because the situation was serious.

Because there was nobody to call.

Nobody nearby who would knock on his door and say, “Move. I’ll handle it.”

He sat on the wet kitchen floor longer than necessary.

For the first time, independence felt less like freedom and more like maintenance.

His entire life depended on him functioning correctly every single day.

If he got sick, he handled it. If he struggled emotionally, he managed it privately. If he felt lonely, he was supposed to “work on himself.”

Everything had become a personal project.

Healing. Productivity. Self-improvement. Optimization.

Even rest required strategy.

A few days later, there was a knock on his door.

It was the old man from apartment 14C.

They had spoken maybe twice before.

The man held out a steel container awkwardly.

“My daughter sent biryani,” he said. “Too much for one person.”

Arun almost refused out of habit.

Instead, he said, “Come in for tea?”

The old man talked for nearly an hour.

Mostly about unimportant things.

Cricket. His arthritis. How lonely the building felt after his wife died.

Normally Arun would have found the conversation tiring.

But that night, after the old man left, the apartment felt different.

Less polished. Less empty.

Weeks passed.

Small things started happening.

The old man watered Arun’s plants when he traveled.

Arun helped him book hospital appointments online.

A woman downstairs sent soup when Arun caught the flu.

Someone in the building created a WhatsApp group after a power outage.

People began borrowing things from each other.

Extension cords. Medicine. Rice. Time.

Nothing dramatic.

Just small interruptions to everyone’s carefully independent lives.

Months later, another blackout hit the area during heavy rain.

The entire apartment building gathered downstairs because the elevators had stopped working.

Children played in the parking lot. Someone made tea on a gas stove. People shared melting ice cream from powerless freezers.

The old man from 14C sat beside Arun eating chips from a paper cup.

“You know,” he said, looking around, “this building finally feels alive.”

Arun looked at the crowd.

At the noise. The inconvenience. The people he once would have avoided.

And he realized something quietly devastating.

All those years, he thought he wanted independence.

What he actually wanted was dignity without loneliness.

Most people do not dream of carrying life alone.

They just want connection without control. Support without shame. Freedom without isolation.

But modern life teaches people to avoid inconvenience at all costs.

Don’t depend too much. Don’t need too much. Don’t burden anyone.

So people become highly functional and quietly exhausted.

They learn how to manage life alone instead of living it together.

And maybe that is why so many people today feel tired in ways sleep cannot fix.

Because human beings were never meant to carry an entire life entirely by themselves.


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