Why “I’ll Pray When I’m Clean” and “I’ll Rest When I’m Done” Are the Same Lie

The lie keeping men from God when they need Him most

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Last Friday evening I walked through the door after day’s of work, sat down for a moment, and could not get up.

Not physically tired. Mentally drained. Like I’ve ran out of motivation to do anything.

I forced myself to get ready and went to meet a friend anyway. He noticed something was off before I said a word.

For two months I had been running. Task to task, project to project. Every day I finished something, the standard for tomorrow went up. I told myself I would rest once I caught up.

My body didn’t wait for me to feel ready. It just stopped.

I had been asking myself to earn something that was never mine to earn.

I see the same pattern in the men I coach.

They fall into lust. They feel the shame of it, the sense that they’ve proven something terrible about themselves. And then they do exactly what I did with rest. They postpone getting what’s the most needed in the moment.

“I’ll come back to God when I’ve been clean for a week.” “I can’t pray or read the Bible because I just relapsed.” “I don’t have the right to seek God right now.”

So they don’t approach God. The distance grows.

The next time temptation arrives there is no anchor, no connection to God, no sense of being held. So they fall again.

They were waiting to earn something that was never theirs to earn.

Jesus said something about this that offended the religious people of his day.

He was eating with tax collectors and sinners, people the respectable crowd had written off, and the Pharisees grumbled. Why do you spend time with people like that?

Jesus answered: “It is not those who are healthy who need a physician, but those who are sick. I have not come to call the righteous to repentance, but sinners.” (Luke 5:31–32, ESV)

The Pharisees came to God feeling worthy. That was their problem. The sinners came as they were and received forgiveness, grace, and transformation.

Sin is not a reason to avoid God. It is the reason to run to Him.

Here is how this connects to lust.

Everything starts with what a man believes about himself. That belief produces a feeling. That feeling drives a decision. That decision becomes an action.

When a man believes his sin has disqualified him, he feels shame. Shame drives him away from God. Away from God, he has no source of transformation. Without transformation, the next fall is a matter of time. And when he falls again, the belief gets louder, “See, I told you, you are not the man Jesus died for!”

The lie feeds itself.

The truth is, You are exactly the man Jesus died for. Not the future version. Not the version that has been clean for thirty days. You, right now, in the middle of it.

My advice: read through the list at the bottom. It’s a list what the Bible says you are as a believer. Not who you want to be. Who you already are because of what He did. Find each one in your Bible. Read it. Sit with it. Let it challenge the thoughts that have been running the longest.

It will not feel true at first. Do it anyway.

I had to take some rest when I didn’t feel it so that later I wouldn’t have the effects of pushing myself too hard.

Now I’m reminded, rest is to help me be even more productive, not a distraction from work.

Same is with seeking God while struggling with lust.

God is not waiting for your perfection.. You don’t need to earn it. God is waiting for your surrender so He can transform you.

Because only He can.

Your identity as a believer in Jesus:

• You are a child of God (John 1:12).
• You are adopted into God’s family (Galatians 4:5–7; Ephesians 1:5).
• You are chosen and holy before God (Ephesians 1:4; 1 Peter 2:9).
• You are beloved and delighted in by God (Colossians 3:12; Zephaniah 3:17).
• You are a new creation; the old has passed away (2 Corinthians 5:17).
• You are free from condemnation (Romans 8:1–2).
• You are justified (Romans 5:1, Romans 8:33).
• You are redeemed (Galatians 2:20).
• You are never alone or forsaken (Hebrews 13:5).
• You are a branch of the true vine, connected to Christ’s life (John 15:1,5).
• You are the salt of the earth (Matthew 5:13).
• You are the light of the world (Matthew 5:14).
• You are a royal priesthood and a holy nation (1 Peter 2:9).
• You are God’s workmanship, created for good works (Ephesians 2:10).
• You are sealed with the promised Holy Spirit (Ephesians 1:13–14).
• You are blessed with every spiritual blessing in Christ (Ephesians 1:3).
• You are God’s elect, chosen in love (Colossians 3:12; Romans 8:33).
• You are known by God intimately (Galatians 4:9; Psalm 139:1–4).
• You are hidden with Christ in God (Colossians 3:3).
• You are more than a conqueror through Him who loves you (Romans 8:37).
• You are seated with Christ in the heavenly realms (Ephesians 2:6).
• You are complete in Christ (Colossians 2:10).
• You are protected by the power of God through faith (1 Peter 1:5).
• You are God’s temple, indwelt by the Holy Spirit (1 Corinthians 6:19–20).
• You are a citizen of heaven (Philippians 3:20).
• You are an ambassador for Christ (2 Corinthians 5:20).
• You are a member of Christ’s body, the church (1 Corinthians 12:27; Ephesians 5:30).

If you need help describing what freedom looks like personally for you, reach out to me at vitus@righteouslegacy.com