Dude Refuses to Pay for a Dinner Date After Realizing Sex Is Not on the Dessert Menu

We are in the midst of a loser male epidemic.

Photo by Kim Green on Unsplash

What the hell is going on with some of you dudes out there, specifically Gen Zers?

You love to bitch and moan about how difficult modern women are, yet you do yourself no favors by engaging in quid pro quo tactics, much like this sorry excuse for a man:

[embed]Video by S.gorshok on TikTok via YouTube

Don’t you guys realize that when you engage in this sort of behavior on dates, you are inadvertently creating a culture of distrust in women, which further drives the massive trend of women stepping away from the dating pool, exacerbating the very same problem you complain about?

And this is not a case of a few bad apples, either. The fact that these bad antics are getting captured on video on multiple occasions is proof positive that it is systemic.

This is the third time in a year I have written about men acting like petulant children, all because the women they were on a date with didn’t want to sleep with them. Never mind the other countless times I have documented cases of men:

• Insulting a woman’s appearance, intelligence, or life choices.
• Crossing Physical Boundaries by inappropriately touching and not taking no for an answer.
• Using intimidation as a means to control the outcome.
• Pestering women into meeting up.
• Guilt-tripping them to stay longer on dates, even though they don’t really want to.

And on and on it goes. I have literally carved out a niche reporting these issues, in hopes that maybe we, as men, can learn and do better.

But I digress…

Honesty is the best policy, always

So, instead of being honest and upfront about his intentions, the guy in the TikTok video stupidly decided to trick the poor lady into thinking he wanted something deep and meaningful — an illusion that shattered the moment his sexual advances hit a dead end, and he demanded she pay for her damn dinner.

He really thought all that wining and dining would make her feel indebted. Little did he know she had already clocked him a mile away. She wasn’t the least bit interested in what he had to sell.

I don’t know if being this transactional has ever worked for him, but somehow I doubt it.

Perhaps if he were a regular reader of mine, he wouldn’t have found himself in such a predicament.

It’s better to say what you want beforehand

For all you fellas who just want to get laid, I will let you in on a secret that will ensure you actually get what you want in the most efficient way possible. This one is just between you and me, so don’t go around spilling the beans.

So here goes…

You actually get more of what you want by stating your intentions before meeting up.

For example, let’s say you match on a dating app or even in person — it doesn’t matter. After the proverbial “getting to know you” banter, tell them you would love to meet for drinks on (insert date/time of choice) and that you are interested in hooking up if the vibe is right.

That’s all there is to it.

It’s not rocket science, fellas. She will either respond with a yes or a no. More than likely, it will be a no, but so what? Respect her decision and move on.

Remember, knowing that kind of information will save you time, effort, money, and, more importantly, the drama of being recorded for millions to see.

It’s not like going on a traditional date is ever going to change the outcome if she is hell-bent on not hooking up, so why not get that out of the way sooner rather than later?